The impact of bullying and cyberbullying: Nowhere to Hide

Bullying: Seeking to harm, intimidate, or coerce (someone perceived as vulnerable). 

Cyberbullying: The use of electronic communication to bully a person, typically by sending messages of an intimidating or threatening nature.

Defining what makes a bully seems easy enough, but it is imperative, however, to realize that these definitions only touch the surface of an extremely complex and knotted web of perception and morals. Bullying, especially of LGBTQ youth, is responsible for countless suicides and is generally detrimental to the mental health of impacted youth. 

Tragedy in the Wake of Bullying 

In 2014, the world was shocked to hear the disturbing news that 17-year-old Michelle Carter coaxed her boyfriend, 18-year-old Conrad Roy, to commit suicide through a series of malicious text messages. She was convicted of homicide and was originally sentenced to 2.5 years in prison in 2017. Her sentence was reduced to 15 months plus 5 years of probation. On Jan. 23, 2020, Carter was released early for good behavior.

On Sept. 23, 2019, death by suicide claimed another victim — this time not from the technology of texts, but through an unceremonious outing of Channing Smith’s sexuality — as his sexually explicit texts with another boy were released through a host of social media platforms. 

The nature of outing and the fact that in the click of a button, Channing Smith’s entire school became aware of his sexuality caused him great humiliation. “I really hate how I can’t trust anyone because those I did were so fake,” Channing wrote shortly after. “Bye.” What followed was a fateful decision that would forever devastate his loved ones. “My brother committed suicide because of the actions of two kids that he trusted that turned personal screenshot messages over to social media in a deliberate attempt to assassinate his character,” his older brother, Joshua Smith, said in the days following Channing’s death by suicide. 

The Smith Family was unhappy with the handling of the case by the school. Little was revealed during the investigation, but in the end, there were no charges brought against any of the involved teens. 

The Law

The laws on bullying vary state-to-state, and the laws are completely dependent on the actions taken. If someone hurts another person physically, then assault statutes may apply but not necessarily. Additionally, stalking laws are in effect in all states, but that doesn’t necessarily include incessant texting or DM’ing via social media. Many states include explicit reference to electronic forms of bullying known as cyberbullying but don’t make the connection between the legal intent to harass. In every state except for Montana, schools mandate an “anti-bullying law” and have formal policies to help with the identification of what constitutes bullying behavior. Policies on when, where and how formal or informal disciplinary action is taken do exist. But there is no federal standard. 

Some laws require a school’s bullying policy to contain certain element, such as defining “bullying,” where others do not include this specification. In some states, anti-bullying laws specify that schools may discipline students on their terms as long as the terms are appropriate and consistent. Federal case law allows schools to discipline students for off-campus behavior if the disruption to the learning environment is prominent. 

All of that’s to say problems arise in an area of law with so little specificity and federal standards.

Neurological Development

The human brain doesn’t fully develop until the average age of 25. From the onset of puberty, throughout teen years, and into the mid-20s, the brain is taking in information and making decisions based on maturity. Rational choices can be more difficult for adolescents.

When a brain is not fully mature, the prefrontal cortex is not as functional as it will become by age 25. Because of this biological fact, we know that impulse control is more difficult for adolescents to navigate successfully. In simple English, it is easier for adults to resist peer pressure, control spontaneous impulses and be more “level-headed” than a teenager. 

When a teenager’s brain is still developing, bullying affects cortisol levels and the body’s stress response system. Trauma stemming from chronic bullying can affect the structure of the brain, according to an international study conducted at King’s College in London. These findings mirror the research of changes in a brain’s architecture in a child who has experienced neglect or abuse by adult caregivers. 

An international study conducted at King’s College in London shows that long-term changes to the structure and chemistry of the brain show the dire effects bullying creates. In these studies, the stress hormone, cortisol, is the substance that chemically alters brain development. Cortisol is released as part of the body’s stress response and is regulated by the hypothalamic-pituitary area in the brain. The hypothalamic area is an almond-sized region near the base of the brain, which helps regulate vital sensory data such as sleep, temperature, hunger, thirst, emotions, and others. Higher levels of cortisol allow the body to operate at a higher performance when it is exposed to a stressful situation. Chronic stress (such as constant bullying) can have an opposite effect, which could allow the body and brain never fully to deactivate from a stressor response. 

Suicide Rates and Statistics

Suicide is the second leading cause of death among young people ages 10 to 24. LGBTQ youth, however, are even more at risk than their heterosexual peers. They are almost three times more likely to contemplate suicide and almost five times more likely to have attempted suicide than heterosexual youth. Also, LGBTQ youth suicide attempts are almost five times more likely to require medical treatment. These suicide attempts by LGBTQ youth and questioning youth are four to six times more likely to result in injury, poisoning or overdose that requires treatment from a doctor or nurse, compared to their straight peers. In a national study, 40 percent of transgender adults reported having made a suicide attempt. Ninety-two percent of these individuals reported having attempted suicide before the age of 25. LGBTQ youth who come from highly rejecting families are eight times as likely to have attempted suicide as their peers who reported no or low levels of family rejection. Each episode of LGBT victimization, such as physical or verbal harassment or abuse, increases the likelihood of self-harming behavior by 2.5 times on average.

A Yale University study discovered that those who are bullied are between two and nine times more likely to consider suicide than non-victims and that 10-14-year-old girls may be at an even higher risk for suicide. 

Recently, ABC News reported that 160,000 kids stay home from school daily because of a fear of bullying. Thirty percent of students in schools are either bully victims or bullies themselves. 

Nowhere to Hide

Unlike in my era, in today’s social media, texting and an instant-access technology world, there is nowhere to hide for an adolescent who’s bullied at school. In my day, and I’m only 39, a kid could stay home from school, skip and go to the movies or, better yet, make friends with a teacher who lets them stay in study-hall all day. Today, without you even knowing it, your life can be displayed on a billboard for the entire school to see within nanoseconds, and bullies can you reach you through multiple apps on your phone and your computer. 

This new reality of bullying is why a) the laws need to catch up with the impact of modern-day bullying and b) parents, educators and administrators need to all be vigilant to spot the signs of bullying and to not play it off as “kids will be kids.” The mental health of our younger generation is dependent on our defining this area of law and designing laws that will ensure bullies suffer real consequences for their actions.

If you are having thoughts of suicide, call the National Suicide Prevention Lifeline at 1-800-273-8255 (TALK). You can find a list of additional resources at

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